In the Legs Up position, the receiving partner lies on their back and raises their legs, either straight up in the air or resting on the shoulders of the penetrating partner, who kneels between their thighs. It's a close, face-to-face position that changes the angle of penetration. Many people find that angle exciting. Some find it too deep, and both reactions are normal.
It works with a penis, fingers or a strap-on, for vaginal or anal penetration. It suits couples of any gender combination. Below you'll find how to set it up, four variations, how to make it comfortable, and when to choose something else.
How to Do the Legs Up Position Step by Step
- Get set up. The receiving partner lies on their back on a firm mattress. A pillow under the hips tilts the pelvis upward and takes strain off the lower back.
- Take position. The penetrating partner kneels between the receiving partner's thighs, knees spread to hip width for balance.
- Raise the legs. The receiving partner lifts their legs. They can point them toward the ceiling, or rest their calves or ankles on their partner's shoulders. The kneeling partner can hug the thighs to steady them.
- Start slowly. Use plenty of lubricant and begin with shallow, slow movements. With the legs raised, penetration often goes deeper than in missionary, so build up gradually.
- Find your rhythm together. The kneeling partner sets the pace. The receiving partner controls depth by bending their knees, pressing a hand against their partner's hips, or simply saying "shallower" or "more."
Many people with a vagina find that this angle presses on the front wall of the vagina (the G-spot area). Bodies vary, though, and nothing is guaranteed. The clitoris usually gets little contact here, so add a hand or a small vibrator if that's what gets you there.
4 Legs Up Variations
1. Ankles on Shoulders
This is the classic version: calves or ankles rest on the kneeling partner's shoulders. It gives the deepest angle of all four variations, so take it slowly. If it's too deep, slide your legs down to your partner's chest or upper arms.
2. Legs in a V
The receiving partner holds their legs up and apart, either behind the knees with their own hands or with help from their partner. This version is more open and slightly less deep than ankles on shoulders, and it leaves room for a hand or toy on the clitoris. Bend your knees if your hamstrings start to complain.
3. One Leg Up
Only one leg goes up on the partner's shoulder. The other lies flat or bent on the bed. It's gentler on the hips and lower back and gives a slightly angled, shallower penetration. It's a good option if you're stiff or just warming up.
4. Edge of the Bed
The receiving partner lies with their buttocks at the edge of the bed. The penetrating partner stands or kneels on a pillow on the floor. There's no strain on the knees from a soft mattress, and the standing partner can adjust the height by bending their knees. Check that the bed is stable and the floor isn't slippery.
Making It More Comfortable
- Use pillows. One under the hips, one under the head. A firm cushion or wedge holds its shape better than a soft pillow.
- Use lubricant. Use it generously, especially for anal sex. Water- or silicone-based lube is safe with latex condoms. Oil-based lube is not.
- Control depth. If deep penetration hurts (for example from pressure on the cervix), lower your legs, put a hand on your partner's hip, or try a depth-limiting ring.
- Anal sex. Go very slowly, use lots of lube, and stop if you feel pain. Never switch from anal to vaginal penetration without a fresh condom or washing first.
- Protection. Condoms reduce the risk of STIs and unplanned pregnancy in this position just as in any other.
When Legs Up Isn't for You
- Pregnancy. Lying flat on your back for a long time is often uncomfortable in the second half of pregnancy and can make you dizzy. Deep penetration and pressure on the belly aren't comfortable either. Side-lying positions usually work better, and your midwife or doctor can tell you what's right for you.
- Back, hip or knee problems. Raised legs bend the lower back and stretch the hips. If you have a disc problem, a recent injury or surgery, choose One Leg Up or skip the position entirely.
- Tight hamstrings. There's no need to force straight legs. Bent knees work just as well.
- Pain during deep penetration. Pain is a signal to stop, not something to push through. If it keeps happening, talk to a gynecologist; it may be worth checking for conditions such as endometriosis.
- For the kneeling partner. Sore knees or wrists? Switch to the Edge of the Bed variation.
Talking It Through
Because the receiving partner has limited room to move, communication matters even more here. Agree on a simple signal before you start ("pause," a tap on the thigh, whatever works for you), and use it without guilt. The penetrating partner should check in, especially early on: "Deeper or shallower?" "How are your legs?" A yes to the position isn't a yes to every speed and depth, and either of you can change your mind at any time. Eye contact is easy in this position, so use it. Your partner's face often tells you more than words.
FAQ
Does the Legs Up position help you get pregnant?
There's no reliable evidence that any sex position, or keeping your hips raised afterward, increases the chances of conception. Sperm reach the cervix quickly regardless of position. If you're trying to conceive and it's taking a while, see a doctor: generally after 12 months of trying if you're under 35, or after 6 months if you're 35 or older.
Is Legs Up good for beginners?
Yes, if you start with the One Leg Up or Legs in a V version and add pillows. Save Ankles on Shoulders for when you know how deep feels good.
Can you do it on something other than a bed?
Yes. A sturdy sofa or a stable table at hip height also works. Make sure the furniture can safely hold your weight and won't slide or tip.
